Tuesday, November 15, 2011

My Friend, Joyce Parker, Passed Away

My husband Peter, Joyce & me at our son's wedding last year
Last Friday, my dear friend, Joyce Parker, passed away after a long battle with ovarian cancer. We met each other six years ago at a weekend retreat for women survivors and hit it off instantly.
Joyce had been diagnosed about two-and-a-half years earlier and I had just newly been diagnosed with breast cancer and was still struggling with the trauma of it all.
I'm pretty sure I had that deer-in-the-headlights look and Joyce noticed. Even though she was dealing with her own fears, she took an almost motherly interest in me. Her attention and kindness helped calm me, as we took long walks through the retreat campgrounds.

In the months and years that followed, we continued to find time for each other, meeting for lunch or an occasional walk near her beautiful home in Redondo Beach. I don't remember a time when Joyce wasn't in treatment or on "vacation" from treatment, yet she managed to keep up her busy psychotherapy practice and relished every moment with her children and grandsons. She was always upbeat and positive even during some of her worst days when I would sit with her during chemo.

Last year, even though Joyce was again in treatment, she flew to Seattle to attend my son's wedding. Her presence meant the world to me. She danced the night away with the rest of us and looked so happy and beautiful.

I will miss her more than I can say.


  1. Dear Idelle,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your words clearly let us peek in and I can see you shared a deep bond with Joyce. I send my deepest condolences to Joyce's family and to you, my love and support.

    Thinking of you,

  2. Thanks so much, AnneMarie. Joyce really was a very happy person and I try to remember that when I think of her.

  3. Thank you for your kind words about Joyce. I heard all about the wedding and love the picture of her in the little black dress. She was a stellar human being and I miss her.

  4. Anonymous, have we met? Feel free to email me privately at IdelleDavidson@gmail.com, if you'd like. "Stellar" is an appropriate word for Joyce. She had such personal integrity. Thank you so much for your note.